Emotional slavery We must constantly try to make everyone happy. When someone isn’t happy, we feel responsible and obligated to fix it.
Obnoxious stage We no longer want to feel responsible for the other’s feelings
“That’s your problem! I am not responsible for your feelings!”
We don’t feel responsible FOR the other. But we still need to learn how we can responsibly … WITH the other, without falling back into emotional slavery.
Emotional liberty We act from
- compassion
- fear
- guilt
- shame
We accept full responsibility for
- our intentions
- our deeds
- feelings of others
We clearly state
- what we need
- we care about the needs of the other
We can never satisfy our needs at the detriment of others