When an opinion is expressed strongly, as an absolute

• I can feel it resonate when it matches my values.

• or

• I can feel the friction when it does not.

When an opinion is expressed weakly, it's pretty much useless in this aspect.

I think, maybe it would be better if we would try x instead?

I won't get this reaction, or if it does it will be very muted.

Another way to hide an opinion is Model: Leading Questions.

Shouldn't we do x instead?

Wouldn't x be a better approach?

All this uncertainty get's in the way.

I often find myself doing that when I'm not feeling psychologically safe.

Environments where I feel safe, something interesting happens:

I express an opinion strongly, when I'm not sure whether it matches my values.

And it allows me to

• feel it resonate when it matches my values.

• or

• feel the friction when it does not.

Even expressing an opinion myself, helps me discover the same things!

With vague ideas it's hard to tell, but once I express them clearly, it's easy to tell!

Expressing it towards someone works better than expressing it towards myself.

When I'm alone, I can imagine me expressing that opinion towards someone else.

But it works best when expressed to a person, in person, aloud.