Heuristic: how hard can I advocate for my position
You can advocate as strongly for your position as you are willing to inquire about theirs.
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You can advocate as strongly for your position as you are willing to inquire about theirs.
Model_ CPR
A compromise reached too soon will short-circuit dialogue. (src: Course_ crucial conversations - Becky Flanagan)
A conversation that ends with agreement is good. A conversation that ends with action is better. (src: Course_ crucial conversations - Becky Flanagan)
A plan to act is not complete without a plan to follow up. (src: Course_ crucial conversations - Becky Flanagan)
Anytime you find yourself stuck, there’s likely a Crucial Conversation you’re either not holding (silence) or not holding well (verbal violence). (src: Course_ crucial conversations - Becky Flanagan)
Creating safety isn’t just something you do in a conversation, it’s something you do through your behavior over time. (src: Course_ crucial conversations - Becky Flanagan)
Feedback from others, while valuable, does not define our self-worth. (src: Course_ crucial conversations - Becky Flanagan)
If you don’t talk it out, you will act it out. (src: Course_ crucial conversations - Becky Flanagan)
it's not the other person telling you their thoughts that builds relationship it's them watching you listen (src: Course_ crucial conversations - Becky Flanagan)