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(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3vX2iVIJMFQ) anecdote: vietnam war overwhelming victories for USA lost the war Book: Finite and Infinite Games - James Carcey If you have at least one competitor, you have a game Model_ finite vs infinite games When you play an infinite games, with finite rules. You race through your recourses and will infinite games: marriage friendships global politics business When you play an infinite game with finite mindset decline of trust decline of cooperation decline of innovation anecdote: apple vs microsoft...

Shouldn't we do x instead? Wouldn't x be a better approach? Maybe x is a better idea? Have you thought about doing x? These are leading questions. We don’t want an answer. We want people to do something, change something. We are trying to lead them, without being explicit about it. Sometimes it’s impossible to see the difference. What do you think about doing x? It can be general curiosity about a person’s ideas and opinions....

Group size A larger group takes longer to grow into a team. It’s harder and therefore takes more time. A team needs trust and alignment. Trust is partially built in the entire group at once. Trust has some transitive property. Model_ trust is transitive But that only acts as an accelerator for trust to spread. If there isn’t a lot to start with, this won’t have any impact. The main part, the daily work, is in the individual relationships....

I don’t remember exactly, but it goes something like: The third person is responsible for resolving conflicts between 2 people. Like when you hear 2 of your friends are fighting, it’s your responsibility to mediate. And I remember vaguely something about ’triangles being a stable form’ in nature, used as an argument or something. (src: Book_ Never Eat Alone)

Trust has some transitive property. I trust 3 people in this group of 4. These 3 people trust the 4th person. So I can kinda trust the 4th person will be trustworthy. I think it is slightly reduced every step, that’s why I added the ‘kinda’ to it. But if there’s

When an opinion is expressed strongly, as an absolute I can feel it resonate when it matches my values. or I can feel the friction when it does not. When an opinion is expressed weakly, it’s pretty much useless in this aspect. I think, maybe it would be better if we would try x instead? I won’t get this reaction, or if it does it will be very muted. Another way to hide an opinion is [[model-leading-questions....

The rules are like this: Nobody speaks, unless when on one of 3 chairs the driver’s seat the navigator’s seat the question box There are 2 empty seats for indicating you wish to take over (without speaking) next to the driver’s seat next to the navigator’s seat The question box is not allowed to ask Model_ Leading Questions when you want to lead, take over navigation The rest is regular mobbing...

Our true culture is made primarily from things no one will say culture is about - power dynamics - unspoken priorities and beliefs - mythologies - conflicts - enforcement of social norms - creation of in out group - distribution of wealth and control inside companies Shanley Kane (src: Video_ A Retake on the Agile Manifesto - Humble, Thomas, Badiceanu, Fowler & Kirk)

It was during one of the SocratesBe conferences. There was a session called something like “fishbowl mobbing”. This was a combination of Pattern_ mob programming and Pattern_ fishbowl where there is a few people on the stage, with the rest spectating. The rules are described here: Pattern_ Fish Bowl mob programming One of the rules is The question box is not allowed to ask Model_ Leading Questions when you want to lead, take over navigation And this was so hard!...

Finite game: Known players Fixed rules Goal: win Infinite game: Known and unknown players Rules can be changed Goal: continue playing Players drop out when will or resources are depleted Stable combinations Finite + finite (eg. baseball) Infinite + infinite (src: Video_ Most Leaders Don’t Even Know the Game They’re In - Simon Sinek) (src: Video_ The Infinite Game_ How to Lead in the 21st Century - Simon Sinek)