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Intention originates from a desire towards something. But wanting something is not enough. “I want to be rich” is pure desire You also need the expectation that it will happen. In your mind it has already happened. Now reality just needs to catch up with what you already know to be true. “I will be rich” is pure expectation The intention to be rich combines both want and will. Important to realise is that you don’t need to know how you will achieve it....
The Power of Habit says that it’s impossible to break habits. Maneesh Sethi, founder of Pavlok says that it is possible by using negative stimulus. Pavlok is an electronic wristband which can vibrate and or give you an electric shock. It is comparable with the old rubber-band you wear on your wrist, and you snap yourself with it. Except that with Pavlok you can automate it, so you don’t self-administer the shock....
The Power of Habit says it’s impossible to remove a habit. You will need to combat it with willpower. This may become habitual itself. But when you suddenly have a really bad period, chances are big you will fall back into the old habit. The book goes on to say that it is possible to replace a habit. You need to keep the trigger and reward the same, but replace the routine....
There are things in your life you can influence. There are things in your life you can’t influence. You can see this as a spectrum going from totally in your influence, to not in your influence at all. Concern There are things in your life that concern you. There are things in your life you aren’t concerned about. This is also a spectrum from very much concerned about to totally not concerned about....
active creation: creative work passive enjoyment: experiencing beauty, art or nature moral behaviour when suffering Suffering creates the opportunity for spiritual growth. “to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances” Why is this model useful? “He who has a Why to live for can bear almost any How.” -- Nietzsche (src: Man’s Search for Meaning)
irreplaceable losses future past opportunities for meaning meaning of sacrifice 1 ) How many irreplaceable losses have you really had? Probably only a few. “Whoever was still alive had reason for hope. Health, family, happiness, professional abilities, fortune, position in society all these were things that could be achieved again or restored.” -- Frankl “That which doesn’t kill me, makes me stronger.” -- Nietzsche 2 ) You don’t know what the future will bring....
“Whoever was still alive had reason for hope. Health, family, happiness, professional abilities, fortune, position in society all these were things that could be achieved again or restored.” -- Frankl (src: Man’s Search for Meaning)
“He who has a Why to live for can bear almost any How.” -- Nietzsche (src: Man’s Search for Meaning)
A habit is defined by 3 things trigger: an internal or external stimulus routine: fixed set of behaviours reward: some reinforcement Trigger Routine Reward Context feeling stressed grab jacketinvite colleaguego outsidelight a cigarette feeling connected /relaxed feeling Smoking feeling tired walk to kitchenmake coffeepour a cupadd lots of sugardrink coffee caffeine /sugar /hot beverage /5 min meditation Coffee Why is this model useful? It helps looking at habits in a clear way....
People sometimes feel weak and insecure, they feel a lack of energy. One way to feel stronger and more secure is by ‘stealing’ energy from others. We can do this by dominating others, manipulating others, draw their attention, … In The Celestine Prophecy they speak of Control Drama’s. These are styles of stealing energy from others. intimidator interrogator/critic aloof poor me One of these is often the dominant one. An Intimidator tries to dominate the other....